Overcoming The Shame of Relapse in Addiction Recovery


Have you ever felt like the shame after a relapse was worse than the relapse itself?

 

Today I sat down with Tyler Patrick, a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-founder of Therapy Brothers, who has been in his own recovery for nearly 20 years.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  •  How the trauma tree shows the real roots behind relapse and acting out

  • The racetrack of shame and why beating yourself up keeps you stuck

  • The three Cs of shame resilience

and

  • A simple self-compassion practice you can use today

 

Don’t forget to check the show notes for a podcast summary with links to resources we mention and a list of action steps that will improve the quality of your sobriety.

 

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Tyler.

 

SHOW NOTES:

 

Guest Website: https://www.therapybrothers.org/

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YouTube Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Tyler Patrick and today's topic

01:00 What you'll learn by the end of this episode

01:30 Tyler's background as a licensed therapist since 2005

02:00 Tyler opens up about his own recovery journey

03:00 Why shame can be more destructive than addiction itself

05:00 The "trauma tree": how core beliefs drive relapse

07:00 The racetrack of shame explained

12:00 The "case of the fuck its" and the "what the hell effect"

17:00 Why self-trust matters more than willpower

18:30 C1: Using context to normalize your struggle

21:00 C2: Courage: telling your story for the first time

27:00 The four qualities of a safe person to confide in

33:00 C3: Compassion and the Kristin Neff method

36:00 Why repetition rewires your nervous system

41:00 Tyler's real-life story of catching a trigger before church

46:00 The law of 51%: why you don't need to be perfect

50:00 Tyler's closing word of hope for newcomers

51:00 Where to find Tyler and Therapy Brothers

 


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